These days, it’s fairly common to see articles touting the benefits of independent adventure and travel, and rightfully so. I even wrote my own {slightly different} version of the single gal’s ode to solo travel, so I’m not knocking it. I think everyone should have a handful of adventures on their own if only to strengthen their character and discover who they are when not relying on someone else.
But these days, I have an adventure buddy. And you know what? I wouldn’t trade that for anything in the world! I did my time solo adventuring and now I’m basking in the companionship of partner adventures. Why am I loving it so much?
Memories Are Best When Shared
Remember that time when a monkey attacked me in Bali? Or that time when a seemingly-sweet older woman approached me in Paris, trying to sell jewelry {and as we later learned, attempted to steal my purse?}
PC: Will RochfortI vividly remember all of these events, but it’s so much more fun to recount them with Will who was there for both of them. He remembers details that I’ve forgotten; I add dramatic flair when describing the psychotic monkey. And it works. Sure, these stories are funny and entertaining when you tell others, but no one will truly understand what happened other than Will and me. And we can relive that adventure over and over again once no one else wants to hear it!
Balance the Personalities
I’ll own it: I’m impetuous and sometimes I do stupid stuff. On the other hand, Will is logical and rational, and analyzes every situation for flaws. More often than not, his judgement is sound whereas mine revolves around the best adventure I can find. On the flipside, my impulsivity sometimes pushes us into the best possible experience.
My point is this: we balance each other nicely. Without me, I like to think his life would be boring. And without him, I’m sureΒ I would end up backpacking in the Grand Canyon without snacks….or something. But when you combine the two of us, we compute to the best possible solution for adventure.
You Have Someone To Push You
For me, this one is huge. I have a rather stubborn inner drive and some may say that I’m as tenacious as a pitbull {for example!} But this doesn’t mean that I don’t struggle through harsh weather, tough climbs or hectic travel days. Sometimes, the juice doesn’t seem to be worth the squeeze and I question whether the adventure should happen at all.
But then, I think ofΒ the other half of this partnership. Maybe I don’t feel like hiking my ass to the top of that mountain before dawn? Too bad, because Will has his heart set on it and would be disappointed to turn around. Or perhaps, a sunset ski sounds miserably cold and dark, leaving me desperate to stay inside my nice, warm house? Will is beyond psyched to catch those sunset photos and would be disheartened if he missed the sun’s last glorious rays.
I’m not trying to say that you should always do what your adventure buddy wants. However, considering the wishes of someone else has been critical in pushing me forward during wishy-washy moments. And without a doubt, I never regret it!
Two Heads Are Better Than One
Albert Einstein once said, “If at first the idea is not absurd, then there is no hope for it.” Sometimes it just takes a partner to encourage the absurdity to continue the adventures. If one person can come up with some ridiculously awesome escapades, imagine what two heads conjure up?!
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What would you add to the list?






31 Comments
I love this and I couldn’t agree more with all of it! I love taking adventures with my husband, I’m a massive researcher and love finding out about places before I go whereas Jason likes to be surprised and not know much about the place. It’s a good balance.
On another note, your photos are amazing! Everytime I come on to this website it gets me so excited to move to Colorado!
Thanks! Most of them are Will’s although I’ll use one of mine occasionally π When are you moving here?
We are leaving Korea this summer and will spend a month or two(or three) with my husbands family in WA and then doing a road trip down so we are hoping to get there before Christmas. π
I couldn’t agree more. Once in a while I just need a good day by myself in the mountains but for the most part, I want my mountain man with me. Rock climbing wouldn’t be possible without him and hiking a big bowl and then creating new lines in fresh powder just isn’t as much fun when you can’t turn around together and admire each other’s work. π
Yes! I like solo adventures occasionally too, but it’s so much more enjoyable to turn around after something crazy and be like, “Do we just freaking do that?!”
I love this post! And yes, I do agree on sharing those moments, specially with someone you love. I adventured by myself for years, but nowadays I adventure with my girlfriend. I love when I see her accomplishing her first long hike or her first climb and she’s so proud of herself. I would probably also add that when you adventure with some, you can also learn a lot of things.
Anything special or anything you do that you would recommend to make it more enjoyable?
I guess it depends on the level of comfort of you partner. I wrote a whole post on my blog called “how to introduce your partner to the outdoors”, it’s about few things that have worked for me, and that’s considering that my girlfriend had zero experience in outdoor activities.
That’s very true– seeing your partner accomplish a goal is so rewarding!
I’ve been adventuring with my partner for almost 20 years now! I wouldn’t have it any other way. At this point I’m not sure if I could tell a story of an adventure on my own, we naturally co-tell it.
Haha that’s us already! Although Will tells the majority of the stories and I jump in when I’m SURE he has forgotten a key point π
Gorgeous photos! Yes to memories being best when shared!
Thanks Laura!
I guess this just seems logical to me, but it’s safer with two people. So you can do a bit more outlandish adventures because you have someone to fall back on. Does that make sense to you?
Absolutely. Two peoples’ knowledge and confidence = much bigger adventures!
I so agree! I love all the beautiful pictures, you two have had some awesome adventures together and I am sure there are so many to come.
That’s the plan! π
Kind of like the personality thing you mentioned — I would add both bringing different skills to the adventure — like, my hubby is an excellent map reader and navigator (I’m not). I’m much better at noticing little nuances about an experience that he would just walk right by without me pointing out
Definitely. Will’s sense of direction is much better than mine π
I couldn’t agree more! Since Ron and I have been together, we’ve had countless adventures. Some in sure I’d never go on if it wasn’t for him. And he always remembers the best details that I somehow forget!
That’s my favorite– when you’re telling a story together and the other person shares a detail you’ve totally forgotten. It’s like reliving the experience all over again!
Beautiful photos! And yes, I totally agree that memories are best shared. I don’t even like to travel anymore if my hubby isn’t with me. We share everything!
Thanks Tiff! Will takes some pretty good snaps π
OH I love this! Adventuring with my husband is the BEST and it’s even more fun now because we have the girls π Memories for days!
I bet! We haven’t gone the kid route yet but I’m sure that leads to ridiculous entertainment π
I would have to agree. I like to think his life would be boring without me too, and he agrees wholeheartedly. Haha. I have found one tiny downside to having him as my main adventure partner: when he got a new job that doesn’t allow as much time away, my adventures got a lot lonelier. I grew to love them so much, but now I appreciate when we make them happen a lot more too! It also encourages me to find more adventure partners. π
Haha that’s true! If he can’t go, I can always find others who can– but I like my adventure partner with me π
Great post. I completely agree. I have been travelling with my wife for 5 years and our times outside have become some of our most memorable. I still get out to do my solo things but to be honest I get a little bored and lonely by myself. Thanks for the post and keep writing!
I love and agree with everything about this post including the readers comments! I couldn’t agree more that traveling and experiencing adventure and life with someone that you love, trust and just have fun with, makes the experience and memories just that more amazing! I am just so grateful that I found that someone I can create adventure and new experiences with!
I LOVE this and whole heartedly agree with all of the above. Solo hiking is always an adventure but having someone to share those memories gained through hiking together — whether with a significant other, family member, or even friend — just adds to the experience. Not to mention it’s a great way to spend quality, uninterrupted time together! π
Great post. I agree with everything you said and the reader posts. It’s just more fun and safer to explore the outdoors with someone else.